Sometimes Single Parent?
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its funni…i feel like a single parent and…that my husband is my maid. my hubby makes my maid do everything i want him to do for out kids. i am a FTWM and rely on my maid to tc of the younger kid. older one goes to child care.
DH will always tell me to ask the maid to do whatever i ask him to do…simple things like make baby’s milk, or play w baby. so i feel like my maid has become my partner! :x so convenient for him so he can continue his life.
when its my maid’s off day, he will help me only if i ‘instruct’ him wat to do. then when i get upset handling 2 kids <2 yrs old by myself, he says i m just an incapable mother and shd just let my maid do everything. he always hint that i m not good enough, it hurts a lot as i try my best.
am just frustrated, given up on why he behaves like this. -
riash:
My gutfeel is that he's not happy the way he is about his \"life\" as a father and projects that same inadequacy on you.
DH will always tell me to ask the maid to do whatever i ask him to do...simple things like make baby's milk, or play w baby. so i feel like my maid has become my partner! :x so convenient for him so he can continue his life.
when its my maid's off day, he will help me only if i 'instruct' him wat to do. then when i get upset handling 2 kids <2 yrs old by myself, he says i m just an incapable mother and shd just let my maid do everything. he always hint that i m not good enough, it hurts a lot as i try my best.
am just frustrated, given up on why he behaves like this.
Hang in there riash!
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hi riash, maybe you got his hint wrongly, like I did ? Why don’t you tell him how you feel face to face about his hint. Or maybe he is still not ready to be a dad ?
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To all women who have one time or another felt \"frustrated\" by the seemingly lack of action by your DH. You are not alone and you are special. Why? Read on…..
Why Women Are So Special.
Mum and Dad were watching TV when
Mum said, \"I'm tired, and it's
getting late. I think I'll go to bed.\"
She went to the kitchen to make sandwiches for the next
day's lunches. Rinsed out the popcorn bowls, took meat out of
the freezer for supper the following evening, checked the cereal box levels, filled the sugar container, put spoons and bowls
on the table and started the coffee pot for brewing the next
morning.
She then put some wet clothes in the dryer, put a load
of clothes into the washer, ironed a shirt and secured a loose
button.
She picked up the game pieces left on the table, put the phone back on the charger and put the telephone book into the drawer.
She yawned and stretched and headed for the bedroom.
She stopped by the desk and wrote a note to the teacher,
counted out some cash for the excursion and pulled a text book
out from hiding under the chair. She signed a birthday card for a friend, addressed and stamped the envelope and wrote a quick
note for the grocery store. She put both near her bag.
Mum then washed her face with 3 in 1 cleanser, put on
her Night Solution & age fighting moisturizer, brushed and flossed her teeth.
Dad called out, \"I thought you were going to bed.\"
\"I'm on my way,\" she said. She put some water into the
dog's dish and put the cat outside, then made sure the doors were locked and the patio light was on.. She looked in on each of the
kids and turned out their bedside lamps and radios, hung up a
shirt, threw some dirty socks into the hamper, and had a brief
conversation with the one up still doing homework.
In her own room, she set the alarm; laid out clothing for the next day, straightened up the shoe rack. She added three things to her 6 most important things to do list. She said her prayers,
and visualized the accomplishment of her goals.
About that time, Dad turned off the TV and announced to no one in particular. \"I'm going to bed.\" And he
did...without another thought.
Anything extraordinary here? Wonder why women live longer...?
'CAUSE THEY ARE MADE FOR THE LONG HAUL.........
(and they can't die sooner, they still have things to
do!!!!)
Send this to phenomenal women today...they' ll love
you for it! And Forward this to as many men as you can so that they know why women are so special
..........!
God's very own creation! -
:goodpost: westmom!
Sometimes, we women need a little of that boost! :love: -
yey westmom! what a great article - agree that sometimes we just need a little bit of motivation to go a longer distance
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daisyt:
hi riash, maybe you got his hint wrongly, like I did ? Why don't you tell him how you feel face to face about his hint. Or maybe he is still not ready to be a dad ?
i hv spoken to him about it, he just says that i shd be able to handle such things and that i shd stop complaining. but the irony is that he's actually good w the kids, they enjoy being w him but he doesn't willingly do.
i hope things improve as we go along. -
Am surprised to find this thread…thought i’m the only suay one. Before and when i was pregnant, my DH promised the sky and the moon. When my son was borned, nothing was done. My DS is now 4 months plus and till date, he has only changed his diapers once (and that’s because i was stuck doing my post-natal massage) and ‘bathed’ him once (not really bathed cos he gave up halfway and passed DS back to me). I know he is tired from work but i’m a FTWM as well. He doesn’t want to change his son’s diapers because he finds it disgusting. He doesn’t want to bathe his son because it’ll ‘always get my clothes wet leh’. And many other things which i’m too tired to spell out here. I’ve spoken to him about it and he promised he will put in more effort from now on. Me too, hope that things will improve…Else i’m just a single mother with financial assistance.
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westmom:
.... Anything extraordinary here? Wonder why women live longer...?
'CAUSE THEY ARE MADE FOR THE LONG HAUL.........
(and they can't die sooner, they still have things to
do!!!!) [/b]...
Can't die sooner, as still have many things to do... !!!! :stupid:
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fussyMummy:
:shock: :shock:westmom:
.... Anything extraordinary here? Wonder why women live longer...?
'CAUSE THEY ARE MADE FOR THE LONG HAUL.........
(and they can't die sooner, they still have things to
do!!!!) [/b]... Can't die sooner, as still have many things to do... !!!! :stupid:
:celebrate:
Can't die sooner, as still have many things to do... !!!!
If it is with in our ability, we would plan what to do for the condolence visits, who should wear what, is that cleaned and ironed, etc etc...
:roll:
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