Sometimes Single Parent?

[foreverj]

yey westmom! what a great article - agree that sometimes we just need a little bit of motivation to go a longer distance

[riash]

daisyt:

hi riash, maybe you got his hint wrongly, like I did ? Why don't you tell him how you feel face to face about his hint. Or maybe he is still not ready to be a dad ?

i hv spoken to him about it, he just says that i shd be able to handle such things and that i shd stop complaining. but the irony is that he's actually good w the kids, they enjoy being w him but he doesn't willingly do.

i hope things improve as we go along.

[butterwaffles]

Am surprised to find this thread…thought i’m the only suay one. Before and when i was pregnant, my DH promised the sky and the moon. When my son was borned, nothing was done. My DS is now 4 months plus and till date, he has only changed his diapers once (and that’s because i was stuck doing my post-natal massage) and ‘bathed’ him once (not really bathed cos he gave up halfway and passed DS back to me). I know he is tired from work but i’m a FTWM as well. He doesn’t want to change his son’s diapers because he finds it disgusting. He doesn’t want to bathe his son because it’ll ‘always get my clothes wet leh’. And many other things which i’m too tired to spell out here. I’ve spoken to him about it and he promised he will put in more effort from now on. Me too, hope that things will improve…Else i’m just a single mother with financial assistance.

[fussyMummy]

westmom:

.... Anything extraordinary here? Wonder why women live longer...?


'CAUSE THEY ARE MADE FOR THE LONG HAUL.........

(and they can't die sooner, they still have things to

do!!!!) [/b]...

Can't die sooner, as still have many things to do... !!!! :stupid:

:celebrate:

[Sun_2010]

fussyMummy:

westmom:

.... Anything extraordinary here? Wonder why women live longer...?


'CAUSE THEY ARE MADE FOR THE LONG HAUL.........

(and they can't die sooner, they still have things to

do!!!!) [/b]...

Can't die sooner, as still have many things to do... !!!! :stupid:

:celebrate:

:shock: :shock:
Can't die sooner, as still have many things to do... !!!!

If it is with in our ability, we would plan what to do for the condolence visits, who should wear what, is that cleaned and ironed, etc etc...
:roll:

[fussyMummy]

Sun_2010:

If it is with in our ability, we would plan what to do for the condolence visits, who should wear what, is that cleaned and ironed, etc etc...
:roll:

:!: ah......If like that.. die also cant rest in peace... :clubmyself:

[mathsparks]

butterwaffles:

Am surprised to find this thread...thought i'm the only suay one. Before and when i was pregnant, my DH promised the sky and the moon. When my son was borned, nothing was done. My DS is now 4 months plus and till date, he has only changed his diapers once (and that's because i was stuck doing my post-natal massage) and 'bathed' him once (not really bathed cos he gave up halfway and passed DS back to me). I know he is tired from work but i'm a FTWM as well. He doesn't want to change his son's diapers because he finds it disgusting. He doesn't want to bathe his son because it'll 'always get my clothes wet leh'. And many other things which i'm too tired to spell out here. I've spoken to him about it and he promised he will put in more effort from now on. Me too, hope that things will improve....Else i'm just a single mother with financial assistance.

Yr ds is only 4 mths, you've a long, long journey ahead of you, butterw. Consider getting a helper and if your dh dislike baby chores, get him to do housework instead. He has to do his fair share, right?

Though I was also a ftwm when dd was born, I gladly bathed, changed and enjoyed all the baby chores when I got back from work, to the extent of not allowing dh or the helper to do. I saw that as a way of bonding. The only chore I hated was mealtimes when she was a toddler, and that quickly became the helper's chore. :lol:

[watmekiasu]

For me, as a single parent, many times the anger comes to a head when there's a cockroach in the home (thank God it's rare!). :lol: I can handle most problems in the home but I cannot handle a cockroach. It's really, really tough when your child is screaming her head off, freaking out and you are just as hysterical and there's no man around to kill that monster lurking in the dark at home. That's when I never fail to curse at the absent husband. Where is the man when you need him? :x

[mathsparks]

not just cockroaches, but occasional bats too. Kids and I would scream like we’re possessed when we see one flying in…think vampires! :!:


And I also need the man around for changing lightbulbs (my legs wobble when I climb ladders), fixing a leaking tap and choked basins.

[watmekiasu]

mathsparks:

And I also need the man around for changing lightbulbs (my legs wobble when I climb ladders), fixing a leaking tap and choked basins.

I can do all that myself - don't need no man for that. :celebrate:

BUT man and cockroach (bats too I guess) must come together.