Any parents here ever felt pressurized by others?

[foreverj]

i think there’s nothing wrong wif parents doing their best for their children, with a balance between encouraging and pushing them just enough and not too hard and letting them enjoy their childhood.


what i can’t stand is those parents who just blindly follow what their frens r doing, pushing their own children to try and be like their friends’ children, without regard as to whether its suitable for their own children.

[foreverj]

markfch:

But I still believe that there are parents who don't subscribe to the rat race, at least for kids at an early age. Cos even if you win, you're still a rat . I would really like to hear from this group how they cope with peers pressure.

i have a fren whose dd is supposed to be in n2 this yr but she has not attended school yet, just the weekly enrichment classes. she's one of the few parents i know who r really not in the rat race. my fren herself came from a top girls school n is one of those independent, confident, self-assured type of parent. how does she cope with peer pressure? gotta ask her, although i can sense her frustrations when people quite senselessly \"make digs\" at her when they hear her relatively 'relaxed approach\" when it comes to her dd's education.

[Blobbi]

ksi:

No, I don't feel pressured by what others are doing for their children because every child is different. My friends share in great detail what they do for their children and sometimes seek my advice or opinion. If it has any impact on me, then I would be overly busy.


I feel more pressured by my own kid.

100% agree, ksi. I was struggling to come out with the words but you said it so precisely.

[markfch]

foreverj:

i have a fren whose dd is supposed to be in n2 this yr but she has not attended school yet, just the weekly enrichment classes. she's one of the few parents i know who r really not in the rat race. my fren herself came from a top girls school n is one of those independent, confident, self-assured type of parent.

I've quite a few friends like yours too. Their thinking is usually very long term. Though they had stellar results, they tell me that they only expect their kids to try their best. That's enough for them. I believe them cos at least one of them, a GRL gave up a place in a tier one sch to go to a tier two sch. She felt that her kids will do better in a slower pace environment :salute: .

In my clique there are also parents who are more kancheong, who like to share notes on academic tips. I'm one of them. But when we have group outings together, we try to be sensitive to such talks.

[carebear]

I am definitely not the kancheong parent, unlike my DH who is very super duper kancheong.

He does all the teaching and coaching, whereas I make sure my kids are well clothed and fed and am in charge of enrolling them into tuition centres and enrichment courses.
To me, academic excellence does not necessarily equal financial success. So as long as my kids are doing ok and not with bad company, I am already happy.

[verykiasu2010]

carebear:

I am definitely not the kancheong parent, unlike my DH who is very super duper kancheong.

He does all the teaching and coaching, whereas I make sure my kids are well clothed and fed and am in charge of enrolling them into tuition centres and enrichment courses.
To me, academic excellence does not necessarily equal financial success. So as long as my kids are doing ok and not with bad company, I am already happy.

i thought that is called division of labour in an ultra super kancheong kiasu family ?? :rotflmao:

[markfch]

verykiasu2010:

carebear:

I am definitely not the kancheong parent, unlike my DH who is very super duper kancheong.

He does all the teaching and coaching, whereas I make sure my kids are well clothed and fed and am in charge of enrolling them into tuition centres and enrichment courses.
To me, academic excellence does not necessarily equal financial success. So as long as my kids are doing ok and not with bad company, I am already happy.

i thought that is called division of labour in an ultra super kancheong kiasu family ?? :rotflmao:

vk2010, why you expose people. So bad :rotflmao:

[verykiasu2010]

markfch:

verykiasu2010:

[quote=\"carebear\"]I am definitely not the kancheong parent, unlike my DH who is very super duper kancheong.

He does all the teaching and coaching, whereas I make sure my kids are well clothed and fed and am in charge of enrolling them into tuition centres and enrichment courses.
To me, academic excellence does not necessarily equal financial success. So as long as my kids are doing ok and not with bad company, I am already happy.

i thought that is called division of labour in an ultra super kancheong kiasu family ?? :rotflmao:

vk2010, why you expose people. So bad :rotflmao:[/quote]no lah, already self exposure :rotflmao: :rotflmao:

[HyperKiasu]

verykiasu2010:

markfch:

[quote=\"verykiasu2010\"]
i thought that is called division of labour in an ultra super kancheong kiasu family ?? :rotflmao:

vk2010, why you expose people. So bad :rotflmao:

no lah, already self exposure :rotflmao: :rotflmao:[/quote]markfch,
now you have the answer of how to cope with the peer-pressures: come to KSP to do these exposures...or 自嘲....

[markfch]

HyperKiasu:

markfch,

now you have the answer of how to cope with the peer-pressures: come to KSP to do these exposures...or 自嘲....

Usually I'm the one after learning from KSP will go and tell my friends. So I'm one putting pressure on others :evil: .

Carebear no offense, we are only joking ok? But if you really have to blame someone, vk2010 started it :laugh: