MARRIAGE
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Hi there…
I somehow feels that you n ur hubby is really doing a good thing…
Sometimes less talk and less vocal also can go a long way.
1 needs to be a good listener and the other a good talker…For my case none of us is a good listener…so most of the time, we talk at the same time…lol
Im proud of you being able to practised self restraint in ur marriage… Thumbs up for the both of u…
Should give a tip or two… -
carebear:
In my 15 years of marriage, I don't think we have quarreled more than 10 times. We don't say things to hurt each other. We say things to sort things out constructively and I would try to discuss things when we are calm. Some people say this is not good as we treat each other cordially and we are not frank with each other. But I think people say hurtful things they do not mean when when they are angry, so I restrain myself when I am angry. Don't know whether it is healthy?
If you have no issues, why create one? Words once spoken, cannot be taken back, so restraint is certainly the order of the day in a marriage. -
3Boys:
3boys ....carebear:
In my 15 years of marriage, I don't think we have quarreled more than 10 times. We don't say things to hurt each other. We say things to sort things out constructively and I would try to discuss things when we are calm. Some people say this is not good as we treat each other cordially and we are not frank with each other. But I think people say hurtful things they do not mean when when they are angry, so I restrain myself when I am angry. Don't know whether it is healthy?
If you have no issues, why create one? Words once spoken, cannot be taken back, so restraint is certainly the order of the day in a marriage.
good one !
Hubby also practice this Mantra in our marriage .................
Because Woman are endowed with a very very long memory.........
So all Mar..sian be a-ware
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what is marriage? marriage is tiring. marriage is about sacrificing and compromising. marriage is not about changing others. but why do men expect women to be different?
if you have children, you can’t break a marriage. one has to continue pretending nothing happen and go on becos of children. we can’t choose our own life any more. whatever we do is to show and do for others. we have no more dignity. if one to choose to break up, fingers will be pointing at you. but why has it always be one sided? why when problem arise, the other party will keep saying will try to make it better. if you don’t give him chance, he and others will say you are unfair, you are not giving him chance. how many chances are we suppose to give? how long do we have to endure? by giving one too many chances, nothing will improve. we will be immune towards it. by giving him chances to say "will try", it’s become a habitual to use it after quarrel. if one try, I’m sure the same issue will not happen again. if one say for the sake of saying, definately the same problem will keep coming back.
Am I asking for too much for spouse to understand your needs and expectation after 10 yrs together?
why can’t a man reads woman’s mind after so long?
why a man can only focus one thing at a time? why woman is like an octopus having so many hands?
after all these years of marriage, now I fully understand why there is homosexual relationship. think it’s better for a homosexual relationship to avoid having differences in opposite sex. -
happysheltie:
what is marriage? marriage is tiring. marriage is about sacrificing and compromising. marriage is not about changing others. but why do men expect women to be different?
If a marriage is tiring, and you have to constantly sacrifice and compromise, then don't get married.
No, we should not change after marriage.
Most people change for the worse after marriage, or their true colours come out after marriage.
So be yourself during courtship days, do nothing extra to impress the other party.happysheltie:
If the marriage is irreparable, even with children, sometimes it is better to go separate ways.if you have children, you can't break a marriage. one has to continue pretending nothing happen and go on becos of children. we can't choose our own life any more. whatever we do is to show and do for others. we have no more dignity. if one to choose to break up, fingers will be pointing at you. but why has it always be one sided? why when problem arise, the other party will keep saying will try to make it better. if you don't give him chance, he and others will say you are unfair, you are not giving him chance. how many chances are we suppose to give? how long do we have to endure? by giving one too many chances, nothing will improve. we will be immune towards it. by giving him chances to say \"will try\", it's become a habitual to use it after quarrel. if one try, I'm sure the same issue will not happen again. if one say for the sake of saying, definately the same problem will keep coming back.
happysheltie:
Am I asking for too much for spouse to understand your needs and expectation after 10 yrs together?
why can't a man reads woman's mind after so long?
why a man can only focus one thing at a time? why woman is like an octopus having so many hands?
After 10 years of marriage, your spouse should have fully understood your needs and expectations.
A man can't read a woman's mind cos the woman does not want him to find out what she is thinking!
So telepathy is the best, provided you have the signal to do that.
Heee....women can multi- task most of the time. Men are more focussed on what they are doing. -
MMM:
Err... off Topic... how did you conver? able to share??:offtopic:
But I managed to convert our wedding and ROM day video from VCR to DVD. I laid my hands on it yesterday evening.
We spent the entire evening with the kiddos watching the 1.5 hours video and it was really great. Seeing ourselves in younger and slimmer days. The oaths that we took, the things we did, the people who attended our wedding, etc... it was just great :love: -
KS_me:
am interested too! but how to ensure that the VCR 'tape' is not mouldy?
Err... off Topic... how did you conver? able to share??MMM:
:offtopic:
But I managed to convert our wedding and ROM day video from VCR to DVD. I laid my hands on it yesterday evening.
We spent the entire evening with the kiddos watching the 1.5 hours video and it was really great. Seeing ourselves in younger and slimmer days. The oaths that we took, the things we did, the people who attended our wedding, etc... it was just great :love: -
carebear:
sure or not?
Heee....women can multi- task most of the time. Men are more focussed on what they are doing.
whenever i drive, i have to place my two hands on the steering wheel and keep my eyes on the road condition; whenever my dh drives, he can use one hand, drink water, see traffic, and look at other minor stuff happening by the roadside aka
http://postimage.org/image/14dv3p738/ -
jedamum:
When I drive I can talk to DH but he can't. He has to concentrate lol.
sure or not?carebear:
Heee....women can multi- task most of the time. Men are more focussed on what they are doing.
whenever i drive, i have to place my two hands on the steering wheel and keep my eyes on the road condition; whenever my dh drives, he can use one hand, drink water, see traffic, and look at other minor stuff happening by the roadside aka
http://postimage.org/image/14dv3p738/ -
jedamum:
Oops, forgot about driving part.
sure or not?carebear:
Heee....women can multi- task most of the time. Men are more focussed on what they are doing.
whenever i drive, i have to place my two hands on the steering wheel and keep my eyes on the road condition; whenever my dh drives, he can use one hand, drink water, see traffic, and look at other minor stuff happening by the roadside aka
http://postimage.org/image/14dv3p738/
I don't suggest that we multiple task while driving, like the men!
It's dangerous.
I mean most women can multi task, eg buy groceries while picking kids up, shopping while kids go for tuition.
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