"Leashing" children?
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IMO,
Absolutely no no if it is leashing by attaching to a collar just like a dog.
but ok if it is tied to a harness that the child wears like carrying a backpack. -
i didn’t leash my kids when they were younger. i was more concerned about the leash tangling around their necks or having their arms pulled out accidentally (those leash on hand type).
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Although I never leash my kids when they are young. But I had seen some parent brought those very CUTE & Beautiful leash. Those leash is not latch on their neck lah. It leash on their body. I have no objection on this. To me the safety of the kids is more important. I prefer to leash the kids than let them rush out of the road and mishap happenened or get lost.
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The leash is not around the neck right?
I’ve seen those on backpacks. They’re cute, but I wouldn’t do it. I don’t have any in-principle objections against it though. When DS1 was much younger, and running around a lot (and I was a very inexperienced mum), I would have thought that such a thing would be a godsend!
But now that I’m more experienced, I don’t think such a device is necessary. If we’re in a place that’s not safe for them to be running about, they’re either carried by us or we’re holding on to their hands tightly. -
MummyThreeStreams:
Uh, nope.The leash is not around the neck right?
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tankee:
we have actually seen before but more like teenage girl liao.IMO,
Absolutely no no if it is leashing by attaching to a collar just like a dog.
but ok if it is tied to a harness that the child wears like carrying a backpack.
she actually had a leash around her neck n was chained to a wall n was totally naked.
but she's not in singapore lah malaysia but dunnoe sg got or not? -
hi snowman,
i hv not seen the clip but why r u bothered if its not around the neck?
i dun leash my kids, bt to each his own .each parent knows their limts in keeping their kids safe.
how do u keep ur kids safe when out when their at that active age in crowded places? -
peh-boo:
huh? This sounds like absolute abuse!! Why should it be promoted in SG??? :?we have actually seen before but more like teenage girl liao.
she actually had a leash around her neck n was chained to a wall n was totally naked.
but she's not in singapore lah malaysia but dunnoe sg got or not?
Anyway, the leash for kids is sometimes essential especially for very active and not yet discerning kids. Also good for parents who love to shop and can forget about their children....so the leash still gives them freedom to move about but within limited areas. It is not ideal but good for \"engrossed\" parents and active kids. I think it is really the way it is handled. Handled with love is fine. Carrying in hands and putting in strollers are just other forms of \"leashing\" and probably worse cos the child is totally immobilised. -
I used to leash Little Boy when we travelled. He was between 2 to 4. It was a harness leash that he wore across his chest and under his arms. It was especially useful at crowded places like Disneyland and Universal Studios where once a child slips your hand, it can be a nightmare to find. I also leashed him right through the many connecting flights we took (because losing a child at airports is another nightmare).
Little Boy didn’t mind because it allowed him to explore the world within a radoius of 1m from me and because I attached the leash to my wrist, I could carry bags and such quite easily whilst holding on to him.
Most other times though, I let him hold my finger. We played a game called Catch the Fishy. My index finger was the fish and it would without warning decide to swim away from his little hand. And then he had to catch it all over again which was an occasion for plenty of giggles and squeals but the end-result was that he made sure he hung on to my finger really tight. -
I was one such child who was leashed many many moons ago. It was a sort of a harness that was worn around my chest. My mother leashed me so as not to lose me in crowded places. I find it ok to use this on kids who might wonder away on their own.
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I use the backpack leash on my 4 yrs old on recent trip to Tokyo Disneyland. Its is very useful and the backpack can carry a small bottle of drinks so its very convenient when she need to drink, I dont have to keep on digging into my bagpack. When she fall asleep in the bus or chair, it works as a pollow, neck support or even a chair cushion (Just nice in size). It also allow her to move around when I need to do some shopping. She loves her backpack so wheneven we at crowded place she will ask to leash her.
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Heh heh, looks like it is in 'fashion' to use backpack leash on kids in Tokyo
I did it when my DS was 4 yrs old and when we were in Tokyo. I didn't need to do it with my first born as she is not as adventurous as my DS.
He didn't mind it, and certainly is in no way 'traumastised'by it.
However, we didn't use it for long as DS figured out how to wriggle himself off the harness pretty soon...
SPI:
I use the backpack leash on my 4 yrs old on recent trip to Tokyo Disneyland. Its is very useful and the backpack can carry a small bottle of drinks so its very convenient when she need to drink, I dont have to keep on digging into my bagpack. When she fall asleep in the bus or chair, it works as a pollow, neck support or even a chair cushion (Just nice in size). It also allow her to move around when I need to do some shopping. She loves her backpack so wheneven we at crowded place she will ask to leash her.
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I visited Tokyo Disneyland last week, did not see any kids on leash leh.
I never put my kids on leash, even though I bought my kids to both Hong Kong and Tokyo Disneyland before. Actually Jurong Point is far more crowded and we go there many times every week so I am used to it. I have a little boy who loves to run away on his own, so I always hold on tight to his hand. I feel that this way is much more loving and affectionate. -
tamarind:
We went on Nov it was very crowded.I visited Tokyo Disneyland last week, did not see any kids on leash leh.
I never put my kids on leash, even though I bought my kids to both Hong Kong and Tokyo Disneyland before. Actually Jurong Point is far more crowded and we go there many times every week so I am used to it. I have a little boy who loves to run away on his own, so I always hold on tight to his hand. I feel that this way is much more loving and affectionate.
Yr little boy good, will let you hold his hand. Mine sometimes her hands are busy with her toys or busy with other things. -
MyBaby:
Heh heh, looks like it is in 'fashion' to use backpack leash on kids in Tokyo
I did it when my DS was 4 yrs old and when we were in Tokyo. I didn't need to do it with my first born as she is not as adventurous as my DS.
He didn't mind it, and certainly is in no way 'traumastised'by it.
However, we didn't use it for long as DS figured out how to wriggle himself off the harness pretty soon...
For my 1st child I also dont need to use it, he dont run that fast as compare to my 2nd gal. My 2nd gal is smaller in size and very fast in movement. It very useful when I was at Shinjuku looking at the train map and decideding which train to take and half of my brain woundering is my gal still with me while I am thinking. I can multi-task :roll: -
Chenonceau:
I used to leash Little Boy when we travelled. He was between 2 to 4. It was a harness leash that he wore across his chest and under his arms. It was especially useful at crowded places like Disneyland and Universal Studios where once a child slips your hand, it can be a nightmare to find. I also leashed him right through the many connecting flights we took (because losing a child at airports is another nightmare)..
What if a kidnapper changed the leash to be on a dog or cat when you couldn't see your child bc it's a crowded place? -
I bought one for DS2 as he is more active... His is a little backpack with a doggie head, which I thot was quite cute. So far we have only used it once when we went out... During my recent trip to HK Disneyland, we didnt use it as we rented a pram and he was strapped in most of the time.
It is not like we are leashing our kids are animals or something... Would parents rather risk endangering the lives of our little ones just because of what we feel others may think of us?? :roll: or would we rather play safe and manage the risk associated with bringing our little ones out? -
phankao:
Hmmmm... A child leash doesn't quite fit on a dog or cat... I don't think... unless it is a big dog or a giant cat. Typically, big dogs who are not trained to heel at your side will get up and run, tugging at the leash. Stranger dogs would tend to do that... or come sniff around you. Also, it isn't an easy leash to take off and put on. If people take the child, they would leave the leash empty rather than hang around and waste time trying to put a dog in it, and risk being caught by me. Or they would cut the leash with scissors and take the child. I doubt anyone would switch baby for dog.Chenonceau:
I used to leash Little Boy when we travelled. He was between 2 to 4. It was a harness leash that he wore across his chest and under his arms. It was especially useful at crowded places like Disneyland and Universal Studios where once a child slips your hand, it can be a nightmare to find. I also leashed him right through the many connecting flights we took (because losing a child at airports is another nightmare)..
What if a kidnapper changed the leash to be on a dog or cat when you couldn't see your child bc it's a crowded place?
Consider also that it's easier for strangers to lead away a wandering child than for strangers to purposefully undo the clasp on the leash. The important thing was to keep the child from getting lost and thus be vulnerable. As long as he was on the leash, it would already deter potential kidnappers.
And I had double protection. (1) He sat on a trolley as much as possible and I (whilst pushing the trolley) had my arm around him, whilst still holding the leash from my wrist. (2) I held his hand when he as off the trolley and I still held on to the leash.
Between looking after the bags, the passports, the wallets and an older child, I just felt more secure with the toddler on a leash. Some might think it is cruel but I would rather be safe than sorry. But that's just me.
Having the child on a leash does not prevent you from treating him/her with respect and dignity. In fact, having the child on a leash is not an excuse for letting him out of sight. Little Boy's leash was adjusted at 1m distance from me (and depending on how crowded it is, I would sometimes twirl it around my fore arm so that it was shortened to 0.5m or less). It isn't that sort of extensible leash you use to walk the dog... or for lazy parents to sit down and let the child wander around so far away that he gets out of sight. A child leash is not meant for walking the child like a dog. It's for added security. You hold the child or his hand as per normal. You keep the child in sight as per normal. Or you try to. The leash is just in case for some reason, one gets distracted or the child slips your hand. Even if I was sometimes distracted, I made sure that my attention went back to my 2 children as quickly as I could.
I don't need to use it in Singapore where I feel relatively safer, and if I lose a child, I know where and how to get help quickly. In a foreign country, I just want to be sure, hence the leash.
At the end of the day, parents who use child leashes don't do it to demean our children. We do it to keep them safe. -
Chenonceau:
Hmmmm... A child leash doesn't quite fit on a dog or cat... I don't think... unless it is a big dog or a giant cat. Typically, big dogs who are not trained to heel at your side will get up and run, tugging at the leash. Stranger dogs would tend to do that... or come sniff around you. Also, it isn't an easy leash to take off and put on. If people take the child, they would leave the leash empty rather than hang around and waste time trying to put a dog in it, and risk being caught by me. Or they would cut the leash with scissors and take the child. I doubt anyone would switch baby for dog.phankao:
[quote=\"Chenonceau\"]I used to leash Little Boy when we travelled. He was between 2 to 4. It was a harness leash that he wore across his chest and under his arms. It was especially useful at crowded places like Disneyland and Universal Studios where once a child slips your hand, it can be a nightmare to find. I also leashed him right through the many connecting flights we took (because losing a child at airports is another nightmare)..
What if a kidnapper changed the leash to be on a dog or cat when you couldn't see your child bc it's a crowded place?
Consider also that it's easier for strangers to lead away a wandering child than for strangers to purposefully undo the clasp on the leash. The important thing was to keep the child from getting lost and thus be vulnerable. As long as he was on the leash, it would already deter potential kidnappers.
And I had double protection. (1) He sat on a trolley as much as possible and I (whilst pushing the trolley) had my arm around him, whilst still holding the leash from my wrist. (2) I held his hand when he as off the trolley and I still held on to the leash.
Between looking after the bags, the passports, the wallets and an older child, I just felt more secure with the toddler on a leash. Some might think it is cruel but I would rather be safe than sorry. But that's just me.
Having the child on a leash does not prevent you from treating him/her with respect and dignity. In fact, having the child on a leash is not an excuse for letting him out of sight. Little Boy's leash was adjusted at 1m distance from me. It isn't that sort of extensible leash you use to walk the dog... for lazy parents to sit down and let the child wander around so far away that he gets out of sight. A child leash is not meant for walking the child like a dog. It's for added security. You hold the child or his hand as per normal. You keep the child in sight as per normal. Or you try to. The leash is just in case for some reason, one gets distracted or the child slips your hand. Even if I was sometimes distracted, I made sure that my attention went back to my 2 children as quickly as I could.
I don't need to use it in Singapore where I feel relatively safer, and if I lose a child, I know where and how to get help quickly. In a foreign country, I just want to be sure, hence the leash.
At the end of the day, parents who use child leashes don't do it to demean our children. We do it to keep them safe.[/quote]aiyoh - i'm not even arguing with you about whether they are treated with respect or not. It was just a thot when I read that some of the leashes that a parent posted about earlier is clipped on. Imagine if it were switched.
I have no personal experience with leashes altho' i have 4 kids. Keep super tight eye on them. -
phankao
Haha… no… no argument. Just explaining my experience. Lots of my friends don’t use leashes either. I decided to just to make me feel safer. And my friends commented that the way I was watching Little Boy, the leash was a waste of money. But well… it’s like buying insurance mah…
If nothing happens, money gone. If something happens, then didn’t buy insurance… very heart ache.