Extra Marital Affair

[Willows]

Well, I am thinking could he be still seeing his lover that’s why he refuse to be intimate with me.

[3Boys]

Willows:

Well, I am thinking could he be still seeing his lover that's why he refuse to be intimate with me.

Errr....how does this square with the previous question you asked? Obviously if he is still involved outside, or if you suspect him to be, there is no way to move forward, is there?

[laughingcat]

Willows:

Well, I am thinking could he be still seeing his lover that's why he refuse to be intimate with me.

I really admire those woman or man who wants to and can forgive and stay by the cheating spouse. For me, I can't do that because I can't live with that stigma.

[Joseph27]

Willows:

Well, I am thinking could he be still seeing his lover that's why he refuse to be intimate with me.

If he is still with his lover then your choices narrow - if he is super rich divorce and get half, if he has ironclad prenup - put up with it and get a toy boy and just have fun with his money, if he is just average and treating you like that - kick his cheating butt out onto the street. Tough times

[tracytmks]

i m new at this track. just found out tt my hubby had EMA too is a malaysian girl if i m not wrong. started to suspect this wen he starts to go work early n come hm late at nite. y is he doing this need some advise

[EatNonStop]

My galfren's husband also had EMF....that started 2 yrs ago and 1 year later, they decided to sign separation...Recently, He broken up with the china gal claiming characters difference, still connecting the 2 kids and occasionally request my galfren to join in the \"family\" outing but still refuse to go home or reconcil though my galfren is ready to patch up.......what is this? :?

[3Boys]

fluffyboy:

Hi


wanna ask your opinion on my situation here. feeling kinda lost and dunno wat to do. nobody whom i can seek advice from since its kinda private.

since i was pregnant 2+ yrs ago, my husband stop being intimate with me. reason he gave was tat he was afraid may hurt the unborn child due to \"rough handling\" and by accident etc. I accepted his reason considering he is a very cautious person who rather not take risks. After my child is born, for first 1 yr, we were very busy taking care of baby, lack of sleep, inexperience parents and basically exhausted most of the time. So we din have any intimacy. Now that my child is coming to 2 yrs old, life getting easy and settled into routine, my husband still gives excuses not to be intimate, saying he is very tired or simply not in the mood. When I tried harder, he gets angry and we ended up quarrelling badly in several occasions. Which means that we have not been intimate since >2 yrs. Is it normal for a man to be so exhausted physically that he does not have the \"need\" anymore? I caught him once in a while looking at porno on the internet.

Can anyone advise what is happening?

I have checked his HP there is no trace of \"3rdparty\" unless he really covers his track very well.

Sigh.

Difficult though it is to believe, sex can actually be hard work for a man. After a period of inactivity, especially if he has found some other way of 'gratifying' himself, he might just get into that groove and not deal with the effort of being intimate with the spouse.

You cannot let him get away with that.....

You must let him know that you expect physical intimacy as part of the deal of being married. Then set the scene for some relaxation time away from the hustle and bustle, to reconnect. Although it seems difficult to do, I recommend that you plan a romantic getaway, perhaps 2-3 nights at least, away from the baby (get your mum or MIL to cover). Get relaxed, do dinner out, get to feel good about yourself and each other as a couple. It can be turned around, but it will need some effort.....and it'll be worth it.

[cnimed]

3Boys:

Difficult though it is to believe, sex can actually be hard work for a man...You cannot let him get away with that.....

:lol: :lol: Nicely put.

[tracytmks]

hubby got ema as i suspected. this mth his hp bill $200 plus lots of oseas calls. call everyday n one day can call more than 4 times. working on shift. need to check any cheapest PI to recommend? how long they track n do they do oseas

trans? oso if to file seperation any cheap lawyer to recomm? nw wat i worry is my gal no one to bring her hm after her 3hrs kindergarden(k1). currently is my mil taking care she is staying with us. relationship wif her is sour most of the time quarrel wif hubby cause of her. she is not spontaneous enough i m a working mum. everyday got to rush hm like mad women. go hm wash floor, my clothes eat dinner then go bring my younger son at nanny hse. so routine n stress. nite time got to take care of both she no need. long weekend is the worst both will fight. mil sometimes bo chap

[peapot]

oh dear! Tracytmks, that sounds so frustrating! To put up with hubby and MIL at the same time. Stressful indeed. In the worst scenario, try putting your kids in student care? You need to talk to your husband. Ask him exactly what he wants now. There are many law firms around. google and you will find a list of companies that will meet your criteria. In the meantime, perhaps you can shift back to you mom’s place?