New Daddy BLUES !! HELP NEEDED !!:pray:

[ttwee1]

EASON MAGPIES:

Thanks for sharing. Guess you are almost in the same shoe as me since your son is about my daughter age. My parents commented maybe at this period son would want the daddy more.

I dont know if sex makes a difference.

I wanted to make the habit of bring her for a walk everyday I come home so I try my best not to leave work too late and also not go out for dinner and evening activities with friends. I thought by doing so will then make it a habit and she will wait eagerly everyday for daddy to bring her down but it did not turn out that way.

One reason could be my dad brings her for walk every morning as we lived very near my parents.

I just pray things get better ~~

I am not too sure sex makes any difference at such a tender age though i have heard girls tend to get closer to daddy and boys to mommy. Opposites attract maybe?

You're doing a lot to try to foster a close bonding with your girl but as in anything else dun try too hard, take things naturally and understand all these issues are just a passing phase. I am pretty sure your girl will understand how dear her daddy is to her as she grows. For my case i am just very happy to know that my boy is happy and healthy.

Oh yes here are some links from youtube i promise to share, you can show them to your girl daily to encourage her to learn new words and to sing along. You can echo the songs together with her as you get familiar with it, do it with actions and she will mimic what you are doing before you know it.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=gsfoveoJwbs
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=7XYQd_sJVzk&feature=related
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=xx5GWCgklhw&feature=related
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=saF3-f0XWAY
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=BELlZKpi1Zs
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=dk9Yt1PqQiw&annotation_id=annotation_915706
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Z_tWEayqHKk
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=lRXsC1J4jJM
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=r-DRyIqh0g0
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=U3S3OX6HQm4
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=7_mol6B9z00&feature=related

[MadScientist]

Thanks for the links... useful for me too.


About the gender attractions...

Mine are all ok with me. Guess I am very strict, and I play very fun too!

[EASON MAGPIES]

ttwee1:

EASON MAGPIES:

Thanks for sharing. Guess you are almost in the same shoe as me since your son is about my daughter age. My parents commented maybe at this period son would want the daddy more.

I dont know if sex makes a difference.

I wanted to make the habit of bring her for a walk everyday I come home so I try my best not to leave work too late and also not go out for dinner and evening activities with friends. I thought by doing so will then make it a habit and she will wait eagerly everyday for daddy to bring her down but it did not turn out that way.

One reason could be my dad brings her for walk every morning as we lived very near my parents.

I just pray things get better ~~

I am not too sure sex makes any difference at such a tender age though i have heard girls tend to get closer to daddy and boys to mommy. Opposites attract maybe?

You're doing a lot to try to foster a close bonding with your girl but as in anything else dun try too hard, take things naturally and understand all these issues are just a passing phase. I am pretty sure your girl will understand how dear her daddy is to her as she grows. For my case i am just very happy to know that my boy is happy and healthy.

Oh yes here are some links from youtube i promise to share, you can show them to your girl daily to encourage her to learn new words and to sing along. You can echo the songs together with her as you get familiar with it, do it with actions and she will mimic what you are doing before you know it.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=gsfoveoJwbs
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=7XYQd_sJVzk&feature=related
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=xx5GWCgklhw&feature=related
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=saF3-f0XWAY
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=BELlZKpi1Zs
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=dk9Yt1PqQiw&annotation_id=annotation_915706
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Z_tWEayqHKk
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=lRXsC1J4jJM
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=r-DRyIqh0g0
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=U3S3OX6HQm4
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=7_mol6B9z00&feature=related

Yes now I am also learning to take it easy.

Thanks for the videos especially the 1st one.

I do let my daughter watch youtube everyday too. Some of the videos are the same as those on your list. She loved it and would really sit still and watch.

I shall share my links too as some are different from yours. My daughter loves the flashcard videos too.

That gives me an idea. Perhaps I should start a thread and we can all share our youtube videos...:-)

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=XlUvA73a1B8
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=jQyfcfA1cDc
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=mlp4O0pyVWg
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=MApaegDL6a0
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=LTXCJQP2Azw
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ImeyB7YCBSQ
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=kF0F5B2nbMo
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=HGgsklW-mtg
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=MtN1YnoL46Q

[satyagraha]

Youtube is such a godsend, isn’t it? I love it too.


Just to share my view on AV materials. Just my personal opinion.

I often hear people say that their (grand)kids watch tv everyday. If they were to disallow them to watch, there’ll be a period of unhappiness for all. And the caregivers will usually end off with "sigh… they are used to watching tv already."

Watching tv program is not exactly a habit, I feel. It’s just that the kids had been conditioned to "learn from the box". With the colorful, ever-changing visual stimulation and beautiful music / voice, PLUS the figure of security (beloved whoever) by their side lovingly / quietly (instead of nagging), the BOX is associated to "feel good".

And if they were to repeat what they watched, the adults will go "WOO… AAHH… my baby is so clever!!" with their smiles from ear-to-ear. And as they grow, they’ll continue to do so. Why not, since it’s gonna make the caregivers happy.

But alas, as they grow, expectations are different.

So seriously, we can’t blame the kids for getting glued to the box (note that I am referring the box to both tv & computer). They were conditioned since young. And because time is spent in front of the box, they had lesser time to create play for themselves. In the long run, they lose the ability to play by themselves and had to rely on gadgets.

In short, AV materials are useful but I’d advice parents to use them randomly and not as a daily routine. Just my personal opinion.

[EASON MAGPIES]

I do wonder about the bad effects too but these days I guess humans as a whole rely too much on gadgets. I myself are on the net every day before I sleep.


More importantly we have peace when we show her you tube. My wife use it so she can sit still and she finds it easier to feed her.

We use it again so me and my wife can have peaceful dinner together.

However we also bring her for walk and be around nature every day so hope we can balance it out.

[MadScientist]

Be careful making it a habit…


My SIL kids are like that… Addicted, and no TV, no eat.

[satyagraha]

EASON MAGPIES:

I do wonder about the bad effects too but these days I guess humans as a whole rely too much on gadgets. I myself are on the net every day before I sleep.


More importantly we have peace when we show her you tube. My wife use it so she can sit still and she finds it easier to feed her.

We use it again so me and my wife can have peaceful dinner together.

However we also bring her for walk and be around nature every day so hope we can balance it out.

If everyone is at peace with the gadgets, then I guess that is fine. I brought this up as I hear caregivers finding it difficult to limit box time as the child grows and they felt vexed yet can't do much.

Nothing is wrong with spending time infront of the box, it's the intention. Make it a daily routine, you may risk addiction. Make it a hush-hush
helpline, the child is not given the opportunities to learn about self, others and surrounding.

Just my thought. Pardon for digressing from your thread.

[RRMummy]

Hi Eason M,


It is heart-warming to know a father who wants to bond so much.

I agree totally in spending quality time with your little one and what Chenoceau said also applied to both my gals..

But just a little something off my head...in your eagerness to bond, maybe you should not pull her away from Mummy to spend quality time together. I'm just wondering if it will kinda backfire if you push too hard coz she will feel that once you come home you will try to tear her away from mummy dearest.

I would suggest instead to do fun and silly things together just the 3 of you. Sing and dance together. Make Sunday your family outing day either to fly kites, go to playgrounds, etc etc. Let her see that she does not have to choose mummy instead of daddy.

When the gals were your DD's age and younger, my DH will swing them like an aeroplane or throw them around and tickle them silly when he gets home.. they gradually grew to realize that mummy had no such strenght to play like that.. so DH became THE one they looked for when they wanted to play. As for me, I still remain to be the one they will definitely prefer for bedtime. :love:

It will take time, she may ignore you for awhile when mama's around but hang in there. It is said by many that little girls will always grow to be closer to their daddies. :roll:

[EASON MAGPIES]

RRMummy:

Hi Eason M,


It is heart-warming to know a father who wants to bond so much.

I agree totally in spending quality time with your little one and what Chenoceau said also applied to both my gals..

But just a little something off my head...in your eagerness to bond, maybe you should not pull her away from Mummy to spend quality time together. I'm just wondering if it will kinda backfire if you push too hard coz she will feel that once you come home you will try to tear her away from mummy dearest.

I would suggest instead to do fun and silly things together just the 3 of you. Sing and dance together. Make Sunday your family outing day either to fly kites, go to playgrounds, etc etc. Let her see that she does not have to choose mummy instead of daddy.

When the gals were your DD's age and younger, my DH will swing them like an aeroplane or throw them around and tickle them silly when he gets home.. they gradually grew to realize that mummy had no such strenght to play like that.. so DH became THE one they looked for when they wanted to play. As for me, I still remain to be the one they will definitely prefer for bedtime. :love:

It will take time, she may ignore you for awhile when mama's around but hang in there. It is said by many that little girls will always grow to be closer to their daddies. :roll:

I guess my eagerness to bond is partly because of 2 reasons. Firstly I was not closed to my dad at all only my mum. Secondly we have already decided she will be our only child.

Thanks for the suggestion. I did think of that too. She may think of me as the bad guy who tear her away from her mummy.

We do have weekend outing. Usually I will bring her out to spend some time together. My DW will then come later and 3 of us would go dinner together.

The thing is she is ok to be with me and laugh and plays with me when we are alone but once her mummy appears, she will quickly drop me and run away. Same thing happens also when we are in the room.

But I guess it really does take effort and time.

[Sun_2010]

Eason magpies, you are on the right track, just ease up, don't stress yourself over this ...


And like others who have suggested, you have to complement your wife not compete. It's said that the best thing a father can do for the child is love the mother...

Maybe this will help you
http://www.fathers.com/content/index.php?option=com_content&task=view&id=295&Itemid=63

Happy bonding!!