New Daddy BLUES !! HELP NEEDED !!:pray:

[MadScientist]

Be careful making it a habit…


My SIL kids are like that… Addicted, and no TV, no eat.

[satyagraha]

EASON MAGPIES:

I do wonder about the bad effects too but these days I guess humans as a whole rely too much on gadgets. I myself are on the net every day before I sleep.


More importantly we have peace when we show her you tube. My wife use it so she can sit still and she finds it easier to feed her.

We use it again so me and my wife can have peaceful dinner together.

However we also bring her for walk and be around nature every day so hope we can balance it out.

If everyone is at peace with the gadgets, then I guess that is fine. I brought this up as I hear caregivers finding it difficult to limit box time as the child grows and they felt vexed yet can't do much.

Nothing is wrong with spending time infront of the box, it's the intention. Make it a daily routine, you may risk addiction. Make it a hush-hush
helpline, the child is not given the opportunities to learn about self, others and surrounding.

Just my thought. Pardon for digressing from your thread.

[RRMummy]

Hi Eason M,


It is heart-warming to know a father who wants to bond so much.

I agree totally in spending quality time with your little one and what Chenoceau said also applied to both my gals..

But just a little something off my head...in your eagerness to bond, maybe you should not pull her away from Mummy to spend quality time together. I'm just wondering if it will kinda backfire if you push too hard coz she will feel that once you come home you will try to tear her away from mummy dearest.

I would suggest instead to do fun and silly things together just the 3 of you. Sing and dance together. Make Sunday your family outing day either to fly kites, go to playgrounds, etc etc. Let her see that she does not have to choose mummy instead of daddy.

When the gals were your DD's age and younger, my DH will swing them like an aeroplane or throw them around and tickle them silly when he gets home.. they gradually grew to realize that mummy had no such strenght to play like that.. so DH became THE one they looked for when they wanted to play. As for me, I still remain to be the one they will definitely prefer for bedtime. :love:

It will take time, she may ignore you for awhile when mama's around but hang in there. It is said by many that little girls will always grow to be closer to their daddies. :roll:

[EASON MAGPIES]

RRMummy:

Hi Eason M,


It is heart-warming to know a father who wants to bond so much.

I agree totally in spending quality time with your little one and what Chenoceau said also applied to both my gals..

But just a little something off my head...in your eagerness to bond, maybe you should not pull her away from Mummy to spend quality time together. I'm just wondering if it will kinda backfire if you push too hard coz she will feel that once you come home you will try to tear her away from mummy dearest.

I would suggest instead to do fun and silly things together just the 3 of you. Sing and dance together. Make Sunday your family outing day either to fly kites, go to playgrounds, etc etc. Let her see that she does not have to choose mummy instead of daddy.

When the gals were your DD's age and younger, my DH will swing them like an aeroplane or throw them around and tickle them silly when he gets home.. they gradually grew to realize that mummy had no such strenght to play like that.. so DH became THE one they looked for when they wanted to play. As for me, I still remain to be the one they will definitely prefer for bedtime. :love:

It will take time, she may ignore you for awhile when mama's around but hang in there. It is said by many that little girls will always grow to be closer to their daddies. :roll:

I guess my eagerness to bond is partly because of 2 reasons. Firstly I was not closed to my dad at all only my mum. Secondly we have already decided she will be our only child.

Thanks for the suggestion. I did think of that too. She may think of me as the bad guy who tear her away from her mummy.

We do have weekend outing. Usually I will bring her out to spend some time together. My DW will then come later and 3 of us would go dinner together.

The thing is she is ok to be with me and laugh and plays with me when we are alone but once her mummy appears, she will quickly drop me and run away. Same thing happens also when we are in the room.

But I guess it really does take effort and time.

[Sun_2010]

Eason magpies, you are on the right track, just ease up, don't stress yourself over this ...


And like others who have suggested, you have to complement your wife not compete. It's said that the best thing a father can do for the child is love the mother...

Maybe this will help you
http://www.fathers.com/content/index.php?option=com_content&task=view&id=295&Itemid=63

Happy bonding!!

[RRMummy]

Ah.. then it sure sounds to me that you have already got all the ingredients right.. just give your love pie a little more love heat and time.. it will definitely come out nice and yummylicious! :love:


She is so lucky to have you! You will reap your reward in time..

:celebrate:

[EASON MAGPIES]

Thanks to all your suggestion.


Glad to report things have improved a little bit bit since I last post. She now allows me to put on to sleep the last 3 nights. I read to her while she is having her supper milk then before her milk runs out I stop and off the light.

Usually if she falls asleep right away after she finished her milk then not a problem but if she still awakes she will then get up and crawl out to find her mum but last 3 nights she didn’t and just look at me with her big eyes. It was dark but I think I even saw a smile.

It is really quite a satisfying experience. Seems my DD is even harder to woo than her mum. Ha

Now I am worrying about another matter - her speech delayed !!

No wonder the old Chinese saying " Bring up kids to 100 years old, worry 99 of them"

[MadScientist]

well done Daddy...


now just enjoy the moment, and stop worrying about the future.

baby steps... baby steps...

[Sun_2010]

Great job Eason!


One thing we must definitely learn from children - live the moment

[RRMummy]

EASON MAGPIES:

...get up and crawl out to find her mum but last 3 nights she didn't and just look at me with her big eyes. It was dark but I think I even saw a smile.


It is really quite a satisfying experience. Seems my DD is even harder to woo than her mum. Ha

Now I am worrying about another matter - her speech delayed !!

No wonder the old Chinese saying \" Bring up kids to 100 years old, worry 99 of them\"

:rahrah: :congrats: Eason magpies! Your preserverance paid off :rahrah:

:imcool: :boogie: :imcool: :boogie:

Cherish the moments.. and I agree with MadScientist.. small baby steps..