Vulgar words

[RRMummy]

Andaiz:

RRMummy:

err.. I don't think it is the word per se but the context it is said that defines if a word is vulgar or not.. p/s.. then again these words said in hokkien definitely considered vulgar words leh.. :?

Haha, little ironies in our lives, eh? Then again, the hokkien version is the \"pet name\" right? What is the actual term? If we can tell them that, mebbe it wouldn't be termed as crude anymore!

oh.. izzit.. I wasn't even aware that those are the \"pet names\" only.. I thought the baby words that are used are the pet names while those hurled during swearing were the Real Names.. :lol:

[Andaiz]

RRMummy:

oh.. izzit.. I wasn't even aware that those are the \"pet names\" only.. I thought the baby words that are used are the pet names while those hurled during swearing were the Real Names.. :lol:

Hmmmm...just thought they were the crude (adult) version of the \"pet name\"...ehm 700 for e.g. doesn't translate to any other dialect or mandarin, I'd think. :roll:

[carebear]

In my family, we don’t use vulgar words.

So my kids learn them from school, but they don’t use it. At least, not at home.
They will ask me what the words mean, and i will explain it to them.
They have to learn some day or another. It is a form of education, which is needed to integrate in our society.
I just tell them that no matter how handsome or pretty you are, the moment you utter those words, you will become ugly.
Seems to work, as they don’t use it at home, not even when their friends come over for a game of xbox and their friends do say some of these words sometimes. They will remind their friends to refrain from using those words!

[Luvkid]

insider:

........PS: Not encouraging kids to use vulgar words but not to be too alarmed when they do so (qualify: they must be old enough to know when to use and when not to use such as never use it in front my uncles/aunties/mum!!!). Their knowledge of vulgar words will 'improve' when they reach secondary school. Even my daughter in elite school knows about them and will come back to ask me when people say this means what and say that means what and I will explain (she said don't know Hokkien a bit on the losing end as even kena scolded also don't know people scolding what...). Personally I am fine with my older kids spouting vulgar words or swearing occasionally coz I find it 'human' leh...

Hey Insider,

U r the \"open\" one. I dun think i can accept ds1 in near future will use vuglar on me, cos i dun use any on them. I dun know whether is right or wrong to indirectly criticise my mil infront of family members, incl both ds. The incident happened when mil offered a cup of tea to dh, dh just placed on coffee table, mil \"instructed\" to put in certain position, dh just replied \"chin chye lah\" MIL reponsed with **! DS1 \"caught\" ah ma for scolding \"bad\" word. I happily took the chance reacted,\" So u see, ah ma using \"bad\" words, there goes to her son, that's yr papa. And here yr mummy dun use \"bad' words, will u just follow me??\" Ds1 replied,\" I won't lah!\"At that incident, my Brother in law was there too.

Think i am the kiasi kind lah, dun use any vuglar during my primary & secondary school days. Guess maybe friends i mixed with dun use \"them\", we were not the REAL studious one though. Know \"them\" well from father, but can't bring myself to scold any, find it disgusting. Ever commented my father rotten mouth with rotten words, ended with a \"knock\" on my head

[kaydenbrown]

I think swear words and cursing is very normal stuff for kids growing up. They just need to know when to draw a line to it.


Even when you go to higher social circles of professors, doctors, directors etc which I usually hang out with, you still hear a lot of that. But in formal cases, you certainly cannot start spouting all that.

[tony]

insider:

Then I told her, \"Mummy allows you to use bad words if you have to.\" Then she blurted out, \"He is really fxxx-up!\" Then we both laughed and I said, \"Ya, really fxxx-up!\"

I grew up as a prim convent schoolgirl where, if I even think of a bad word, would go red in the face. I think the worst I ever got up to was \"bloody hell!\".

When I went to college, it became quite normal to use the fXXX word and I enjoyed my freedom so much, I probably over-said it. :oops: There is a lot of truth to words opening up a well of emotion that we otherwise would have had not access to. Like in George Orwell's 1984, if they banned the word, then you won't have the related emotion. Conversely if you use a word, a different set of emotions will spring forth.

I find from my own life that the appropriate use of vulgar words (context, with friends etc) is more critical rather than sweeping it under the carpet. Just like ourselves, our kids will learn to use them whether we like it or not. Better to explain to them about when and where they can use it so we don't get bombarded.

[amkian]

ChiefKiasu:

Sorry... this is a little off-topic, but it reminds me of a game show on radio during the early 90s, where they get kids to call in and answer questions for prizes. I can't remember the name of the show... but here's a version of what allegedly happened:


DJ: OK... we are going to give you the name of an animal, and you tell us what is the opposite sex of that animal.
Boy: OK.
DJ: What's the male of a cow?
Boy: BULL!
DJ: Correct! Next... what's the female of a cock?
Boy: Err....
DJ: Come on... I'm sure you know the answer.
Boy: I... I cannot say...
DJ: Sure you can. Just say it and you'll get the prize!
Boy: \"七百\"
DJ: ... complete silence for precious radio seconds...

Heard the show was cancelled soon after.

I'm sorry for being out of topic too but...this is really classic! Can't believe it happened in rl singapore XD

Poor DJ though... bet he got the whack of it.

[Little M]

My hubby n I discourages any swear words.


The other day, I was so angry with my 2 kids (7 n 5 yr olds) that I told them to "shut-up". After that, the kids were whispering to each other "oh, mommy said the "s" word."

[ChiefKiasu]

Little M:

My hubby n I discourages any swear words.


The other day, I was so angry with my 2 kids (7 n 5 yr olds) that I told them to \"shut-up\". After that, the kids were whispering to each other \"oh, mommy said the \"s\" word.\"

My 4yo daughter is in that mode now. I have to be very careful with what I say these days, to avoid her \"Orrr Horrr... daddy say bad words\". :oops:

[Funz]

Driving during peak hours usually brings the ‘best’ out of DH.


And somehow kids radar seem to be constantly tuned in for these occasional slip ups of adults.

DH lost his cool when the driver in front slammed on his brake suddenly to cut to the left and went

DH : Bloody ffff (at this point I stared at him and he stopped)
DD : wat daddy wat? Bloody wat? (up until this point the 2 of them were spacing out)
DH : uhhh… failure
DD : huh??!?
DH : Well, that guy in front almost caused an accident. So I think he failed his driving test. That’s why I am him a failure.
DD : orrhhhh. But is he hurt?
DH : huh??
DD : you say he bloody mah
DS : yah, we call ambulance to save him, then we call police to catch him cos he naughty almost make daddy bang his car!

To my kids, words like stupid, die, disgusting are considered bad words. And if anyone were to use them, they will go orrrhorr, you say bad word. Ahhh… the innocence of a preschooler. I will enjoy it now, for soon, I will have to deal with the real serious stuff.