Changes In Children

[daisyt]

Bear.w.me, a little more tips for you - learn to like what they like, enjoy what they enjoy. Listen to their kind of music, know their kind of idols, watch their kind of movies. Hope this can work for your case because it does work for my case.


Do keep us posted on your progress. I am not expert in this area, just another parent trying my best to do well.

[Bear.014745w.014745me]

Hi Daisyt, thanks. I mostly lead by example.


You mean listen to pop songs from Tata Young, Taylor Swift, IYAZ or Black Eyed Peas or the like? ok, I will try.

As for TV and movies I hold the same view as my wife. Very strict control. Also for myself.

Computer games, sometimes. Mostly limited to email access and school work. Also for myself escept KSP of course when they are not around most of the time. I will start to introduce my DD2 to KSP.

Tours, once in a while long tour mostly short ones.

Dining out, very seldom except wedding dinners/Church’s.

Actually I am still working on my DD2 right now while figuring out how to handle DD1. Appreciate all the tips…

[daisyt]

Hi Bear.w.me,


You mean listen to pop songs from Tata Young, Taylor Swift, IYAZ or Black Eyed Peas or the like? ok, I will try. - Yes, not only listen but enjoy with them, have some common topics with them on their idols.

As for TV and movies I hold the same view as my wife. Very strict control. Also for myself. - You can stick to your views on the selection of movie, but a couple of movies once a month, should be fine right ? Sorry, I don't know how strict is your control. Avatar can ?

Computer games, sometimes. Mostly limited to email access and school work. Also for myself escept KSP of course when they are not around most of the time. I will start to introduce my DD2 to KSP. - I am on your side for this because computer games can be addictive and out of control. But you can try some family games like WII or PS3. There are very cute and non violent games, can play during weekend or school holidays. Of course, you have to play with them.

Tours, once in a while long tour mostly short ones. - Regardless is tour or family outing on weekend, go to places they like, eg. theme park (hey the Sentosa Resort World is coming soon), shopping, zoo, walk, museum, seaside, cycling, roller blades, karaoke singing. Ask them where they want to go and maybe can try let them decide ????

Dining out, very seldom except wedding dinners/Church's. - How about a once a week/month family dine out time and let them decide the place.

Hopefully all these tips is of useful to you. :celebrate:

[Bear.014745w.014745me]

:thankyou:

You are very helpful. I will consider the suggestions.

[westmom]

Thank you 2ppaamm, Blobbi and Daisyt for your helpful suggestions. I think the problem is controlling the "explosion" and my body language. DD can be so nasty at times that I just get overcome with anger. I realised I have to work on myself first before things can improve! "Dare to Discipline" is a good book and I would recommend it too.

[Bear.014745w.014745me]

Have decided to slow down activity here. So deleted the last post.

[OngMum]

Hi, the discussion in this post is greatly helpful to me. Thank you! I observed some reluctance of my daughter of late in things she does. It’s the transition period I hope.

[Bear.014745w.014745me]

Hi OngMum,


Glad that the information is useful to you. I have benefitted from the good advice from the rest of the forumers too.

For the case of my daughter, she is still very much the same. I hope she could pick her self up now that school has gone into full swing but instead she is drown by tons of homework and activities…

The Form Teacher just feeback through my wife that she has back down in her studies…my primary concern really because she is taking the PSLE this year.

Anyway, I will persevere.

[OngMum]

Hi Bear.w.me, I concur with you on the good advice from the forumers here.


My daughter is sitting for PSLE this year too. She is always swarmed with school homework every day and hardly has time set aside for any revision except on weekends. Time seems so limited on weekends too.

I reckon your daughter may be swarmed with lots of homework and somehow it affects her mood and looking forward attitude. You may like to consider injecting some fun activities over the weekends. Going to places she likes or having her to do things she likes.

It’s really a challenging year for both children and parents.

[corneyAmber]

Bear.w.me, do you play wii with your girl? It’s really a good game to play when one takes a break from studies.


Also, for me there is a new godsend simple to install karaoke on mike that I saw on the newspapers, think I am going to get it to unwind with my child once in a while.

Singing is one of the relaxation for us…like jamming during uni days…when the stress was so high.

Whatever it is, don’t give up.

There is another kind of psychology some kids have that I know.
Catching up on PSLE sometimes to them is kinda late for stellar results…so they take on a laissez-faire attitude… Then come Sec 1(may not be in a good school), but because it is a fresh start to them, they will suddenly perk up in their studies. It may not be the right attitude towards learning but it happens to some kids if their mind is games-trained.