Ahmih, I had the similar behaviour like your friend. I felt sorry for my children as I had change from a loving mom to an uncaring mom after I realised abt my HB affair. I am still thinking to divorce or not to divorce till today. As I am monitoring my HB, and found out that he had left the 1st PRO and he still call another PRO and check if she is working so he will go to KTV and sit with her. I had already told him that I am going to file a divorce and willing to change my mind if he determine to change but sadly he just came back from drinking tonight. :stupid: Sometime, I think maybe after divorce I can go back to my own self and love my children more. But the feeling of divorce is very insecure and lonely as I had already went for consultaion by a lawyer. I even call the PRO and warn her not to entertain my HB anymore. :x

After reading a few stories realised something in common, those man are educated with good career path initially but very sad ending. Is it worth? If my HB still insist his unacceptable life style, will he get the similar ending I wonder??? I really want to help him but was always being turn down. I think only God can help him. Good luck to him. :roll:

Poor child has to be withdrawn bec of the father. Any other alternative? Maybe inform the wife about the incident, so that he will not dare to do it again. Or hint him indirectly that he had been reported by your teacher about the incident and hope it will not happen again. :idea:

Thanks alot Insider! I will stay cool and think about my move again. You are right that I still love my husband and keep forgiving him for whatever he did to me and also worry about my children, my main concern. Will try to talk to my HB to an agreement and monitor him for a fews more months. If he cannot change, I need to change and accept him as what he is. Giving everybody a chance, my husband, my children and myself.

Insider, I salute again and I am very touch after reading it. It really make me think twice about my move. But my husband had ONS in April last year which I had ever forgave him. Then started from April 08 till 10 Aug 09, he had an affair with a china pro with many intimacy at hotel 81 and heard that he had intimacy not only with one pro but many. I saw all the pro name in his HP. He still want to go out for drinking everynight although now he promised to come home and check my children school work before he go out. ONS I can forgive, even the pass affair, I can forgive, but moving forward he still insist to go drinking everynight and still carry the spare HP with many pro contact no. If I still forgive him and let him go everynight, will he turn to me and said he want to divorce when I am 50 years old. Those pro only 21 years old, he is 23yrs older than them. How to forgive???

Yesterday night, the china girl follow my husband home at 2.30am to look for me. We talked and realised that they having affair for more than a year and now my husband want to leave her but she don't want. However, my husband said he will not go for china girl anymore bec they control him and make him pay her money, so far, he had already spend about $12k on her. He don't favour divorce not bec love me but worry abt the maintanance. He said he will still want to continue with his night life but just don't touch those china pro.

Thanks alot, I will be strong…

I saluted to insider who can forgive and survive her marraige. I wonder how she did it, very super. Maybe I am not dominant enough. Everybody said that I must get hold of the financial string, but before I can do anythings, he already change all his account and kept it secret, I don't even know how much he has in his saving account and he will turn his face if I ask him anything about his money and will end up with quarrel. Now, there is nothing I can do but to get a PI first. Any good recommendation? I though only marry need alot of preparation, now I realised divorce also need alot of preparation. :roll:

I was very touch to get all the advise and encouragement, as my hb ask me not to discuss this topic to any friends or relatives so I do not know who can I seek advise. Sould I get a PI as he said he definitely not having an affair, he said he just want to drink and chat with his kaki till 5am. If no affair, PI no use right. It cost alot too. I had a confession note for his act of adultery written and sign by him last year, is this enough?

Thanks you buds and the rest of them.