Club 3 or more Kids

[porcupine12trade]

pecalis:

Hi hi,

I'm SAHM with dd1(12), ds(10) and dd(6) with no. 4 on the way. I've just started taking in students this Nov and had to cut down as a result of this unexpected blessing

Hi

Are you a tuition teacher?

[24hr-mum]

sometimes i do feel the kids are like a burden when they are so naughty. but what to do? we gave birth to them. hv to be our responsibility. think of the positive side. the times when they are cute n adorable esp if they are healthy kids. if u watch the monday 8pm channel 8 show, u will realise there are parents who are even more poor thing, when they have only 1 child but a deformed or disabled one…

[pecalis]

porcupine12trade:

pecalis:

Hi hi,

I'm SAHM with dd1(12), ds(10) and dd(6) with no. 4 on the way. I've just started taking in students this Nov and had to cut down as a result of this unexpected blessing

Hi

Are you a tuition teacher?

Hi all

My kids are really really getting on my nerves, I feel taken for granted. Its scary, but i feel i m starting to hate them! I tell myself, i shld not let them steal my joy.

I am an ex-tr who resigned to take care of my own kids. Since my eldest just completed her psle this yr, thought I would like to take in students to teach as I believe I can help them improve - I've been tutoring my own nieces all these yrs anyway. I've cut down the lower pri but will see the P5 and P6 thru.

Having stayed at home for yrs, I have to admit tt there are days when I feel taken for granted and get frustrated with them. Just know that there are good days and there are bad days but if there are more bad than good days,we need to take a step back and find out why - maybe mom is too tired, felt not appreciated, need to take time off for self, not enough support from hubby, kids not doing well in sch, kids health, mom's health, in-laws problems, etc.

[kaka]

Hi pocupine21trade


My husband comes back about every quarter, and I visited him 2 times this year - more to have a break for myself and away from kids! I am lucky that my MIL can come over and stay with kids while I was not around. She used to look after my kids when I worked.

I also become really upset at times especially when I was a new SAHM, with their poor attitude, constant complaining etc. When I cannot stand it, I \"hide\" for a while (like go window shopping) and return to begin a new chapter :love: May be you can try if conditions permits :hugs:

[24hr-mum]

or think of it, if u were FTWM, life will be even more stressful, hving to juggle career n family. but of cos, some women will rather seek to escape from kids by working…


when i was a FTWM, i was constantly worryg abt my kids and feeling guilty over not spending time wf them…

[MummyThreeStreams]

porcupine12trade:

My kids are really really getting on my nerves, I feel taken for granted. Its scary, but i feel i m starting to hate them! I tell myself, i shld not let them steal my joy.

Oh it was one of those days for me. DS1 showed me major attitude this whole afternoon. Thank goodness DH was at home. He saw how worked up i was getting so he went to handle DS1. If i had to take him on, I would have surely slapped him!

Kudos to all of you who manage on your own! :celebrate:

[Lavender_Tea]

First of all, I wuld like to thank 24-hr mum for initiating on this thread, it's a great one!! Kudos to all mummies of this club cos 3 & more is really a handful.


I started to be a SAHM 4 yrs ago, I've a girl (12), followed by 2 boys (10 & 7). I've got no domestic help so I am training my 2 older kids to help out with some simple household chores. Guess it benefits both mummy & kids, mummy welcome the extra help and kids get to learn some lifeskills....

[Chirunner]

Hi everyone, I'm a sahm with 3 boys 12-14. So glad they've all finished PSLE. It's tough being a parent in this age. It's tough being ftwm n having to supervise homework n take care of the home, but at times I feel it's worse being sahm cos if your kids don't turn out well, people kinda look at you n wonder what you've been doing at home.if you're ftwm you can at least say you were working your butt off what more do they expect you to do?? Worst is when your kids turn out well n you get no acknowledgement on top of no pay, no leave n no fixed working hours. Still, it's been a great ride being sahm n I wouldn't have wanted it any other way.


I have a full time helper n we have a 5 seater SUV n an MPV which is really needed only on some weekends when in laws visit, so I'd say its not really necessary. the boys have Chinese tuition from time to time and are able to walk to class so I've become quite redundant... But they still enjoy being picked up:-) financially, it saves a lot not having to pay for so much tuition.

Although I wouldn't trade my boys for the world, I can totally see why some people just don't want to have kids. To each his own, I guess, but kudos to all of you here for having so many! :celebrate:

[porcupine12trade]

when the kids are good and make less noise, they are much desired . I think the school hol is tough for me, coz i have to handle them full day, not helping that my kids are young and close in age, so they fight, complain and whine easily.


I have been a sahm for 1.5yrs but tis holiday is the toughest, I guess when they go to school it'll be better. Tomorrow school starts!

I think I know y i m moody this school holiday, I am temporary staying with my parents. I dont like the idea of my kids disturbing my parents so i tend to get upset more with the kids when they misbehave. When we were living in our own home, i was more tolerant and less moody :)..looking fwd to moving to my own home.

[24hr-mum]

hi all


i started this thread cos i was curious, m i the rare one to hv 3 kids? most of my friends hv only 1 or two.

i m glad to form this network and admire mummies with no domestic help.
when my #3 turns 5 in two years, i might ‘retire’ my helper then