In-law problems?

[buds]

duriz:

It's okay lah, fellow-octomum.

Yo, me here Octo momma as well. :hi5:
My angelic little monkey DD2 is Octo babe as well.

duriz:

This also encourages their tastebuds and appetites, so in future will not be fussy eaters

As long as taste testing does not pose any harm to baby, i find it's fine
too. :hi5: Though not daring as yourself, duriz.. i agree that encouraging
babes to try different food types does help prevent them from growing up
to be picky / fussy eaters.

[duriz]

buds:

It's up to em' brothers now.

My end is simple.

Not with us.

Sigh.....

[duriz]

buds:

duriz:

It's okay lah, fellow-octomum.

Yo, me here Octo momma as well. :hi5:
My angelic little money DD2 is Octo babe as well.

duriz:

This also encourages their tastebuds and appetites, so in future will not be fussy eaters

As long as taste testing does not pose any harm to baby, i find it's fine
too. :hi5: Though not daring as yourself, duriz.. i agree that encouraging
babes to try different food types does help prevent them from growing up
to be picky / fussy eaters.

three octo-mums :hi5:

[Mrs Ang]

cherrygal:

Bengawan solo very bad meh? It is still money wat... I would use the vouchers to buy my fave kueh instead. Not buying for them this year. Have a feeling they will take it and give to her fave son.

I like their kueh too but I need to clear the vouchers before they expire so the fastest way is to buy a box of mooncakes :lol:

[Mrs Ang]

duriz:

buds:

[quote=\"duriz\"]It's okay lah, fellow-octomum.

Yo, me here Octo momma as well. :hi5:
My angelic little money DD2 is Octo babe as well.

duriz:

This also encourages their tastebuds and appetites, so in future will not be fussy eaters

As long as taste testing does not pose any harm to baby, i find it's fine
too. :hi5: Though not daring as yourself, duriz.. i agree that encouraging
babes to try different food types does help prevent them from growing up
to be picky / fussy eaters.

three octo-mums :hi5:[/quote]wow...octo-mum duriz, u r brave. I don't dare to open the gate yet.
Any more oct-mums here?

[mamadontpreach]

thats a very touchy issue. had in-laws troubles as well as parental troubles at times but i still feel i need both sides. the thing might be to find the right balance for everybody’s sake especially the grandchildren

[buds]

Pen88n:

Just came across this thread and heard about Bud's dilemma. Just wanna share my story.


I stayed with my MIL for 6 years after marriage. During that period, we had many big and small disagreements and every time, she insisted in having it her way and would say that she's the elder and must respect and listen to her. Hubby turned \"a deaf ear\" to my \"suffering\", and always use the same excuse that she \"is already old\" and \"may not live so long\" so I should just give in.

Finally, the last straw broke the camel's back and I suggested to live apart. Hubby used his same excuse again, but this time, I was adamant and I bluntly asked him to tell me \"how long more\" is he expecting to stay with his mum. I told him I had my life to live, and I'm not going to spend my life \"suffering\" under MIL (later kena suay suay I die of suffering whilst she outlive me!). Being filial is not having to stay together. She had stayed with us for 6 years, and now it's my turn to have my life back. Hubby realised that he couldn't change my mind, so he agreed.

MIL was furious and had a lot of complaining about me to relatives (as if I care!). For quite some time after we live apart, she continuously made sarcastic remarks directly at me during our visits. I \"ren\" and ignored that for a while. Finally, during a dinner when she again passed remarks, I explicitly hinted to her that I would no longer take any nonsense from her and if she does not know how to respect me, don't blame me for \"not giving face\". I think at that moment she realised that she had no more \"power\" over me (afterall, if I can fight to live apart, why would I not dare to confront her?). She actually mellowed after that incident.

We have lived apart for more than 10 years since. Hubby still visit her at least once a week, whilst we visit on occasions and we are polite and respectful to each other. I am really glad I made that tough decision at that time and stood by it.

Buds, all the best to you and I hope you can lead the life you wish for your family.

Thanks for sharing this, Pen88n.. :hugs: I'm certain that a clean break
would do everyone good. I have been gossipped about regardless if i
am doing right or wrong.... and come to think of it.... even when i'm
not doing anything... ... so you can say those daggers can hit a
bullet proof zone on me. Cos i am the nonchalant & understanding
DIL to all their relatives i've known, a few of them do pat me on my
back or give me tight good bye hugs when we leave their homes
(when we visit during festive days) and they'd whisper, it's not easy
staying with ILs and you are one of the few that i know of who have
lasted this long. Take care.. Now, how sweet is that? :please:

It's enuf for me that i know, they 'know'...

[kanyaramesh]

buds:

schweppes:

Hope Buds will be able to work something out.

It's up to em' brothers now.

My end is simple.

Not with us.

That's it Buds!! way to go!! :udawoman:

[Pen88n]

LKVM:

duriz:

[quote=\"buds\"]
Yo, me here Octo momma as well. :hi5:
My angelic little money DD2 is Octo babe as well.
As long as taste testing does not pose any harm to baby, i find it's fine
too. :hi5: Though not daring as yourself, duriz.. i agree that encouraging
babes to try different food types does help prevent them from growing up
to be picky / fussy eaters.

three octo-mums :hi5:

4dear DS2 is octo born [/quote]I'm in the team too - both my kids and I Octo birthdays!!! :celebrate:

[Pen88n]

Buds, good luck and keep us posted of the progress. Take care!