I wish to thank all for the wonderful advices! My unpaid leave has been approved and i will be dragging my kiddos along to join my spouse at florida. We will be taking korean air & delta airways. I am not a seasoned traveller & this is the first time on the plane for my kids so feeling abit apprehensive. Realised formula milk is not readily available there either ^^ Im hoping i will not go crazy staying home with the kids during the day. Hopefully we’ll be able to get a suitable apartment with some kind of facilities. Visas are done as well but have yet to purchase insurance. Anyone here happened to take korean air before?

ngl2010:

Go because of yourself. Not because of your kids. They won't remember but you will remember. Since you can keep your job, this is a rare opportunity.

Was wondering if it would be fatal to miss 5 months of berries & 'schoolwork', sorry if this sounds silly. Noob mummy here. As for myself...i'm dying to go heh. :lovesite:

keroppi:

Do you drive? It's easier to get around if you do.


As for doc's visit, its not the same as Singapore. You need to make an appointment beforehand and you probably need to get health insurance for the entire family (and just make co-payment on every visit).

Florida is good, at least the weather is tropical so don't have to worry about autumn/winter wear.

Yes, your kids will be too young to remember but if you take lots of photos, they could show them the kodak moments when they are older.

Just go lah. Take a break from work.

Yes i do drive! Will need to build up the confidence thou. I hardly drive in sg as i find myself too slow. I can't keep up. Every car moves so fast! If i follow my spouse, i'll have to do the legwork :slapshead: Accomodation, car, insurance....wow. And it's only 5 months. How people migrate i can't imagine the amount of research.

slmkhoo:

Go. Your kids may not remember much, but you will have lots of good memories as a family. As you say you haven't had experienceas a SAHM, try it (get tips first) - it's worth it! I have been a SAHM all my kids' lives (older girl is 16yo) and we have travelled and lived in many countries since they were born. It can be tough but the family bonding and common memories makes it worthwhile.

:udawoman: How do you do it? Just the weekend leaves me shagged out. You are really capable & adaptable! Here i am...just 5 months and i'm already thinking and thinking don't know i can survive there or not, without work.

coolbaby:

if I were you, I would go.

It's an experience and shouldn't miss this opportunity, especially since your kids are not in Pri school yet.
Florida is nice... you have go to Disney World and many more theme parks!

Florida reminds me of hurricanes. Totally forgot abt the disney part! Wow....Yes both are still very young. Intitally was still thinking about logistics if my spouse is not around. Then his colleagues suggested i just follow. Because 难得 his share is paid for. For me, i've never been so far. You guys are encouraging!

Oh, i don’t have to quit…i can take unpaid leave cos as you’ve said, 5 months is not very long. Im keen to go as i’ve never been to US. I can cope alone in sg but not sure i can cope alone there. Things like where to see doctor if the kids are ill. What to do with them at home…Good thing is, we get to be together and will return to sg right before CNY.

Oh, i thought my boy will remember...and get to spend winter there. My girl will definitely be clueless. So no point joining my spouse? I'm personally quite keen to go but if its of no point for the kids, then i wont...will stay put in sg

Dear fellow parents


My spouse will be on a 5 month course in Florida. I'm trying to decide if i should join him, together with the kiddos. My boy is currently 3 and my girl is 1. I'm a FTWM. I'm not sure how i'm going to cope there. It would be my first time having to be with the kids 24/7 for 5 months :scared: My boy would have to stop Berries. I would have to be a SAHM. Some friends encouraged me to join my spouse as it would be a good experience for the kids. Some asked what i'm gona do with them there Should i follow? Or should i just bring them along for a holiday there for 2 weeks while my spouse is having his term break?

ChiefKiasu:

I didn't realize how fast my sister can move until an encounter with a flying cockroach. There was just a most deafening shriek and then - a vacuum - in the chair just next to me which was occupied by my sister less than 0.0s ago. Yes... reaching escape velocity with zero acceleration is possible... just power the rocket with flying cockroaches.

Haha, this reminds me of the time when i was 8months plus pregnant. I'm very very scaredf of cockroaches and somehow, they only appear when my husband is not in town. I was mopping the floor in the living room at night, staring blankly at the floor when suddenly, i caught something brown at the corner of my eyes. Turns out to be a hugh cockroach crawling towards me. I screamed at the top of my lungs and literally escaped to my kitchen in one hugh olympic leap. After i managed to drown the cockroach in bygone, i was still very scared so that night, i ended up sleeping on the kitchen floor

mathsparks:

Yr ds is only 4 mths, you've a long, long journey ahead of you, butterw. Consider getting a helper and if your dh dislike baby chores, get him to do housework instead. He has to do his fair share, right?

Though I was also a ftwm when dd was born, I gladly bathed, changed and enjoyed all the baby chores when I got back from work, to the extent of not allowing dh or the helper to do. I saw that as a way of bonding. The only chore I hated was mealtimes when she was a toddler, and that quickly became the helper's chore. :lol:

I know i have a long journey ahead which is why i'm freaking out. He does not do housework also. We've lived together for 4 years, he did not even wash the toilets ONCE. Of cos i do not mind taking care of my son, but it is very tiring because my son was extremely colicky, cried and cried, until my husband shouted back at him for crying so much. I cannot afford a helper. I do housework whenever i'm awake and have the energy...like when my son wakes up for milk at 3am. I'll be doing laundry or whatever at 4am. He knows he has to do his fair share but it is difficult because he was brought up where his mother did everything. My son was staring at me washing dishes one day while my MIL carried him and i was telling my son, next time grow up must learn how to do household chores also hor. My MIL quickly and loudly say, \"Aiyah, boys no need to do anything, just study hard and earn money\". It's no wonder my husband ended up like this. I've already trained my husband to wash his own underwear....and throw dirty laundry INTO the basket, not next to it. His lack of support and my MIL, are the reasons why i will not have #2! Amen....