Strparent:

wormy:

why only one response from man? Others secretly repenting?

wormy,

in my case, I will always go into the rain to drive car to the family ( or nearest sheltered pickup point ), or bring umbrellas back for them. Rain is not a big deal for real men :rotflmao: :rotflmao: :rotflmao: We walked for miles and miles in rain carrying 25kg of stuff on our back in our army days.

but occasionally, DW offered to go, but before she can finished her sentence, I am already halfway to the car :imanangel: :imanangel:

I think the reason so little men post here and a few other sensitive threads, is because usually all these emo questions are posed and deliberated by women. :siam:
Look at the in-law problems thread, so many pages !! You seldom see men having problems with the in-laws , do you ?
We rant more about the kayu referees than in-laws

just my humble opinion nia nia.

Strparent ... You Rock!
(only Bros get it :D)

Agree that "trust" is subjective. Essentially, the contract between the employee and the FDW is an employment contract. We can’t control the lives of the FDW. The problem with the law at present is that the employer is made to held responsible for the actions of the FDW. Good or bad, each party has their own views.


IMHO, I think the law needs to be tweaked. If its purely an employment contract, employers cannot be held responsible for what the FDW does outside. Its an employment contract similar to the S-Pass holders who are sitting in the offices. The employer of these S-Pass holders are certainly not held responsible for their actions outside the scope of work and employment. That should be a case for FDW as well. The only difference in the two employment contracts should be the fact that FDW lives on the employers premises. Otherwise, it should be a standard employment contract.

If the FDW are treated similar to the S-Pass holders, then FDW are free to negotiate their contracts with their employers. 1 Day off per month, 1 day off per week, how much salary etc. there might be guidelines for these but each contract can then be tailored differently.

While some FDW don’t deserve sympathy, one must admit that there are FDW that are worth more. Good ones might be far and in-between but to generalize them would be a bit harsh IMHO.

wormy:

This question is for the husbands.

Suppose on a heavy rainy day both of u has only one umbrella and u need to go get yr car in an open carpark. What would u do? Both share the tiny brolly. U go drive car over. Ask wife to drive car over

Depends ...

If heavy rain ...
Husband go take car and then pick up wife.

If not so heavy rain ...
Husband and wife to share umbrella, wife hold umbrella, husband hug her tight tight.

Ask wife to drive car over ... NEVER!

Mine does once a month. Not having off is rather inhumane. Sometimes I think once a month is also too little but with the horror stories about what maids do when they are on their off-day, that scares me. I guess its a question about trust. In your family, do you trust your maid to do the right thing and be able to "behave" herself? I guess sometimes, we don’t have choice but to trust them. In my case, I don’t really ask where she go, what she do during her off-days. All I did was to give her a good talking just before her 1st off day, to let her understand what is out there, what temptations are, how other people might treat her and to remind her that her off-day is for her to take time out from the daily routine. Not to get involved in things are "wrong".

I guess for many of us, the truth is that we will not realize what we have until we lose it. We need to constantly remind ourselves that those around us will not be with us for eternity. Must take time and effort to make them feel loved.

Yes - that’s what I originally meant. Been told that some of those selected are not going. Parents told the child no need to attend. I am wondering if its a good thing to let mind go for the 1st round or not? Got a room and desk allocated already.

MissAshley:

thankgod:

GEP Selection next week.

Anyone's child not attending?

this is for p3 kids ya?

Yes ...

YA

GEP Selection next week.

Anyone’s child not attending?

This deserves to be posted as a sticky!

Good thread. Nice to read the "little" things that are done to keep the relationship "fresh". Kudos to all. What’s important is the effort taken to maintain the relationship.