Club 3 or more Kids

[MummyThreeStreams]

porcupine12trade:

sometimes i get so sick and tired of them.... soooo noisy and its busy for me from the minute i open my eyes in the morning, till i close my eyes at night.


sometimes i feel like giving up, and just return to work, get my salary, my yummy bfast, lunch, shopping and chit chat time.

but if i returned to work, who will look after them? maid? childcare?.... i just cant do it.

i must say i do see results from being SAHM, they are so much more disciplined and they do better in school. We are temporary staying with my parents and it makes being a sahm tougher (think u know y).

alot of time i just feel like giving up!

as i m typing this, they are monkeying around. ask them nap, dont listen. talk to them nicely, they ignore. must scream and cane.... ???? crap

Oh dear porcupine12trade! You know, I only have 2 now, but when things get overwhelming for me, I tell the boys that mummy is going for a timeout. And I lock myself up in my bedroom. Of course, the rest of the house is child friendly. The kids hate it. DS2 who is 3 will cry for me to come out, but DS1 (6yrs) is old enough to know that I won't come out till they keep quiet, so he will get his brother to calm down. And when all is calm, and I feel I can face the world again, I come out and we all exchange hugs and kisses.

But yes, sometimes there is quite a lot of screaming going on at home. I can't imagine what it will be like when DS3 comes along. Got to get a loud-hailer?

As a SAHM you need to take time out for yourself or you will go crazy, especially with 3 kids!

[24hr-mum]

screaming n caning is not uncommon in my hse. but over the years, i hv learnt how to set rules for them esp my boy n in controlling him. a lot of work in pre-empting his nonsense. but the cane still must be hung in my hse as a last resort when nothing works. sometimes the mere presence of the cane is enuf to tame my kids esp my boy cos they know i really cane hard when they do outrageous things eg standing on the chair / sofa wfout fear of toppling, rude, disobedient, fighting etc.


but after caning must sayang them also.

i wld say being a sahm means u hv time to teach them how to tidy their things, be more organised etc. basically u have time to enjoy their childhood.

i always think that kids wif both parents at wk may go thru life like this: infant care, childcare, student care, self-care when reach sec sch, until eldercare when they age…institutional care may not be bad, just i supp the feeling of being at home is nicer??

[porcupine12trade]

MummyThreeStreams:

porcupine12trade:

sometimes i get so sick and tired of them.... soooo noisy and its busy for me from the minute i open my eyes in the morning, till i close my eyes at night.


sometimes i feel like giving up, and just return to work, get my salary, my yummy bfast, lunch, shopping and chit chat time.

but if i returned to work, who will look after them? maid? childcare?.... i just cant do it.

i must say i do see results from being SAHM, they are so much more disciplined and they do better in school. We are temporary staying with my parents and it makes being a sahm tougher (think u know y).

alot of time i just feel like giving up!

as i m typing this, they are monkeying around. ask them nap, dont listen. talk to them nicely, they ignore. must scream and cane.... ???? crap

Oh dear porcupine12trade! You know, I only have 2 now, but when things get overwhelming for me, I tell the boys that mummy is going for a timeout. And I lock myself up in my bedroom. Of course, the rest of the house is child friendly. The kids hate it. DS2 who is 3 will cry for me to come out, but DS1 (6yrs) is old enough to know that I won't come out till they keep quiet, so he will get his brother to calm down. And when all is calm, and I feel I can face the world again, I come out and we all exchange hugs and kisses.

But yes, sometimes there is quite a lot of screaming going on at home. I can't imagine what it will be like when DS3 comes along. Got to get a loud-hailer?

As a SAHM you need to take time out for yourself or you will go crazy, especially with 3 kids!

i see that ur kids are 3 yrs apart, so mayb better then mine. coz mine are 2 yrs apart. like ur #1 will b 7 when u hv #3. n ur #3 will b baby so cant be that noisy or fighting with his brothers. by time he is 3, ur #1 will b 9? i believe by P4, he wont wan to monkey around with the younger ones :)...so mayb you will b spared of 3 kids fighting and making noise.

ya we need time out. few months back, I went holiday , w/o my hb and 3 kids. it was WONDERFUL hahahah.

oh and it doesnt help that my hb travels alot for his work

[24hr-mum]

i must add that if u can control #1, u can make him/her the ‘class monitor’ at home to help u control #2 and #3

[24hr-mum]

if all fails, there is always a parent support group in KSP forum!

[SCTAN]

helo...i a FTWM with 4 kids age range fm 2-7

[duriz]

24hr-mum:

if all fails, there is always a parent support group in KSP forum!

:celebrate:

[24hr-mum]

hi sctan


wow, the age gap must be pretty cls? mind if i ask whr u exceed 40?
i m 38 and thinkg whr shd close shop since i got 3 kids alrdy.

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mummy3streams, porcupine12trade,
initial yrs were tough when kids were really young. DH always travel and it was hell when my mil was stayg wf me. now just me n maid n the kids even if DH travel i m still happy surviving.

takes a lot of parental control to bring up the 3. i do scream n yell (not a gd eg) when they really drive me med. but now i try to use the hug n love persuasion approach and train #1 to help me control the rest

[SCTAN]

Hi 24hr-mum,


I m 37. Currently, canning and screaming are common in our house especially with the 3 boys. Having close age gap meaning they are prone to fighting with each other with no exception for my girl being the eldest.

Same like you, now i hv been trying to instill reasoning method which need to take tremendous effort. Can't imagine how the teacher in Childcare centre handle a bunch of kids.

I found u and this thread to share the sentiments of having more than 2 children

[porcupine12trade]

SCTAN:

Hi 24hr-mum,


I m 37. Currently, canning and screaming are common in our house especially with the 3 boys. Having close age gap meaning they are prone to fighting with each other with no exception for my girl being the eldest.

Same like you, now i hv been trying to instill reasoning method which need to take tremendous effort. Can't imagine how the teacher in Childcare centre handle a bunch of kids.

I found u and this thread to share the sentiments of having more than 2 children

i salute you have 4 young kids!