E3:php:let me share this...one day, a boy showed his SA1 result to his father. His father was very delighted because the boy scored 80-90 marks for all his papers. As an ex-PH student, he happily assumed that his kid would fall into the top few positions in class. But that happy moment only last for a couple of minutes.....he found out from his son that majority of the class scored above 90 marks....he began to PANIC....he compared his son's result with his which was 30 yrs ago.....
i always told my dd to just focus on her school work and try her very best. it doesn't matter where she is going to land as long as she put in an effort. she can slowly climb up the learning ladder with the right pace and one day she will definitely reach the top of the ladder.
Something I learnt...Time and tide wait for no man in PHPPS...
hehe...don't let yourself be thrown into a viscious cycle....no offence...
Reading your posts, you mentioned your dd has no problems going to top 3 classes...so I guess she is one who can relax, relax and still do well? 
PHPPS is fast paced, everything goes past in a twinkling of an eye. I could still remember my dd applying for P1, balloting and all, now she's in P2...and before you know it...I'll be a very anxious parent preparing a child for PSLE...
E3, there is no standard way of teaching kids...my dd needs to learn from the hard way... the IRON-TEETH type...during the first 2 terms, she was simply bo-chap.. unwilling to learn spelling and ting xue, the most she would look through the list ONCE and she would tell you she already knew all the words. As her parent, i was worried but she would come back in most occasions with all correct answers and 1-2 times that she got only 1 mistake which was acceptable to me. Her SA1 was ok, 70/75 (eng), 93/100 (maths) and 49.5/50 (ch). I knew that she could do better than that but i was waiting for an opportunity to push her. During T3, i noticed there was a change in her attitude. She became more diligent and obedient. I was waiting for her to tell me something. One fine day during the start of T4, she told me this...\"daddy, i didn't know what is schooling all about during the first 2 terms but now i understand. last time, i was not disciplined, i didn't hand up my homework on time, i didn't greet teachers...etc...but i have changed during T3. i try to be self-discipline, i do my homework (well, she still forgot sometime), i greet my teachers...and next, so-and-so scored 100 marks in maths during sa1, i will beat him in sa2 but i asked her how since 100 marks is the max...she replied she will go for 100 marks but hoping so-and-so makes a careless mistake in his paper...OMG.....As her parent, i chose PH for her and it is my responsibility to guide her through during her stay in PH. I wanted her to realise herself the environment she is in and the competition she is facing. Luckily, she WOKE UP after 2 terms of study and definitely i have an easier job now...I let her carry on with her own pace, push her abit if i feel she needs it.....To me, she needs to build a good and solid foundation during her P1/P2 and as parents, our job will be easier when she comes to upper primary...