No Problem is problem
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Donkey Kong:
Hello Kong,To spend 25 yrs of my life learning/studying is siong.
To spend another 25 yrs of my life jiaga (look after) kids, so that they will not take wrong paths, is lagi siong...
By then, I old old liow..... 55++ :!: Those married later, lagi older....
Climb Great wall of China, no stamina liow...
This is life???? :stupid: :?
First, I want to let you know, you are not alone.
If you are a job holder, you are luckier than me and many \"self-employed\". I have been unable to get a job since being laid off in Sep 08. My friend, who is around my age (late 40) in the same Semicon industry, also jobless since May 08. We are master degree holders, over Qualified and rejected by taxi companies... they say, when times are back to good, he will give up driving....
If you can still buy favorite books, food for your kids, you are more luckier.
I fall into what you mentioned, married older ... at 37 .. so you are luckier again.
During morning jog, I often run into these special kids learning how to jog, methodologically guided by their teachers (salute to these teachers, they are so kind!).. and you are luckier than these kids' parents...
You are indeed a very lucky person, who still able to vent in this Forum, and get so many of us to response to your \"greives\"! Much much better than those who don't even have money to buy computers....
Take heart, live life and be contended with what you have. -
adhdadhd:
Take heart, live life and be contended with what you have.
:hugs: adhdadhd.. Yeah, live and let live.. :hugs: -
Happiness is a decision that u made everyday!
Take a step back and think of wat can be done best for a win-win situation for all. Sometimes, we need to take tings easy for a better tomolo. This applies for children, spouse or even for ourself.
All, regardless of ages will have to learn to bear the consequences of the tings we do. Juz do our best (especially when children is concerned), and let them learn thru the hard way when necessary.
Life is short... do not let urself and others who TRULY loves u down!
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adhdadhd:
Thanks for your encouragement. :celebrate:
Hello Kong,Donkey Kong:
To spend 25 yrs of my life learning/studying is siong.
To spend another 25 yrs of my life jiaga (look after) kids, so that they will not take wrong paths, is lagi siong...
By then, I old old liow..... 55++ :!: Those married later, lagi older....
Climb Great wall of China, no stamina liow...
This is life???? :stupid: :?
First, I want to let you know, you are not alone.
If you are a job holder, you are luckier than me and many \"self-employed\". I have been unable to get a job since being laid off in Sep 08. My friend, who is around my age (late 40) in the same Semicon industry, also jobless since May 08. We are master degree holders, over Qualified and rejected by taxi companies... they say, when times are back to good, he will give up driving....
If you can still buy favorite books, food for your kids, you are more luckier.
I fall into what you mentioned, married older ... at 37 .. so you are luckier again.
During morning jog, I often run into these special kids learning how to jog, methodologically guided by their teachers (salute to these teachers, they are so kind!).. and you are luckier than these kids' parents...
You are indeed a very lucky person, who still able to vent in this Forum, and get so many of us to response to your \"greives\"! Much much better than those who don't even have money to buy computers....
Take heart, live life and be contended with what you have.
You mean taxi companies really reject pple with postgrad qualification? I read about this Stanford Phd guy driving Comfort cab on the net. I wanna take taxi licence too. No stable job these days.
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My taxi driver neighbor said since circle line and Marina San opened, taxi biz droped. Personally, I felt Ochard road crowd also down significantly.
All the people ended up ‘investing’ agressively in IR… instead of shopping…
We will see, if shops in orchard are not sustainable, rental will drop, and bubble will burst… -
:!: :!: :!: After reading what has been written in this thread...I am utterly lost for words. :faint:
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adhdadhd:
I already suggested Govt to set up new business units to accomodate older PMETs. Dunno when they will do something. Anyone above 40 is very vulnerable. Companies are not very keen to hire this age group.My taxi driver neighbor said since circle line and Marina San opened, taxi biz droped. Personally, I felt Ochard road crowd also down significantly.
All the people ended up 'investing' agressively in IR... instead of shopping....
We will see, if shops in orchard are not sustainable, rental will drop, and bubble will burst... Look out for posts soon. 
But, it seems to me everyone is changing jobs this season. :? -
daisyt:
:salute: :salute: :salute: :salute: :salute: :salute:
We all know right from the beginning, when we decided to have children, it is our responsibility as a parent, to guide them, love them and teach them. Maybe there should be a vow for the parents to take, after child birth, just like marriage vow. In life, nothing is easy.
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No women like to be a \"Mad Women\" at home....
Why we behave like that....
Is because the husbands are not providing us enough...
They expect the wives to bring in the bacon$$$
be the maid...be the tutor...be their cook...be their mum....
I also want to dress up to go shopping ...have high tea ...do manicure
come back just entertain my husband....
but can meh!!!
Unless my husband is a billonaire... :love:
Local mothers are very attached to their kids and very defensive about the families...
You think like those \"young grass\"...USE YOUR BRIAN
I feel so frustrated ....why I choose to marry ...such a heartless man...
He comes home sit in front of the TV....
Weekend is for his Golf and God...
Whereas me I have to slaught...check the kids homework...communicate witht the kids....do housework...go the supermarket....do the laundry...ironing....
And still yet complain that his pants are not iron properly....
I so stress...I am hanging on and enduring this marriage...for the sake of my kids....
I do not quarrel with my spouse because ...I do not want to affect my kids...they are innocent....
I always tell my kids ...once they grow up....I might leave their Dad....
Another more 10 years.... I will gain my freedom.... -
Hi dolphinsiah, just do whatever you can, we are not wonder women. If you are really struggling on housework, why don't get some part time helper? OR come out a duty roaster, get your children to help out some tasks. I think its fair, to talk to the children, that you need help. As for cooking, no need to cook everyday. Maybe 2 to 3 times a week.
Once, my child told me. Her teacher encouraged them once a while, to spare some time out, to do things they like, ALONE. Eg, walk in the park, jogging, read a book ... alone. I find this quite true and good, we have so many roles to play in life, especially after marriage. We are parents of our children, friends of our children, friends of our friends, colleagues of our colleagues, children of our parents etc. But hey, don't forget, I am, me, myself and I too.
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